Hate Mail/Banned?

 

We're aware that a large number of individuals are banned from reading our blogs on Facebook; they can still access them via Blogspot. Around 90% are banned for language, with the others being banned for libelous statements concerning various individuals. One man was banned here for threatening his girlfriend and still another for stating he hated Jews.

If you think we've been unfair or if you wish to try again, email us at Shoalanda.Speaks@gmail.com and request reinstatement. We consider all eligible for unbanning except the latter two we mentioned. In other words, no wife-beaters or antisemites welcome.

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While most of the critical comments/emails that we receive are innocuous at best, we sometimes get hateful words or even threats. The really sad thing is that friends of ours are often similarly bombarded with this hate mail even though they either never blogged here or haven’t done so in years.

Sometimes, we receive hate mail for others. Apparently the rumor that a certain male restaurateur is Shoalanda is alive and well. Last month we got a private message that our eatery was quite below par.

When the mail is particularly obscene or threatening, we have to wonder what kind of person engages in this. After considering any common denominators, we realized that the men (and they are almost always males) who send us such hate have all been arrested for domestic violence.

To put it crudely, these men are wife-beaters. Each and every one, from the lowest social stratum to the highest, from callous cops to mediocre musicians, these are men who have beaten their wives/female partners.

We learned a long time ago that such men can conceal their true nature from others, at least for a while. We once had a friend whose husband never missed a chance to help someone in need. Yet, at least once a month, he beat his small, defenseless wife so badly that she couldn’t leave the house.

Jeckyl and Hyde? Definitely. Yet no matter how good of an actor these men are, the truth usually (if not always) comes out.

Ladies, if he has a domestic violence arrest in his past, run…do not tarry…in the opposite direction. You deserve much better.